Hi, I AMÂ MICHEMINE, also known as Mily
I didn't choose this work because it was a career path. I chose it because I know what it costs to carry trauma alone.
Counsellor · Specialist in the long-term effects of sexual abuse · 15 years experience · English · Dutch · Spanish · Papiamento
My story
I understand this from the inside, not just from the outside looking in.
I came to this work through my own experience of what trauma leaves behind. The patterns it creates. The way it quietly shapes how you see yourself, how you move through relationships, how safe the world feels to be in.
I know what it is to carry something heavy without fully understanding what it is or why it won't let go.
Over the years, I have overcome many of life’s obstacles with the help of books, therapy, and deeply meaningful spiritual teachers. But more than anything, it has been life itself that has taught me the most. I have now been happily married for more than 23 years and have two wonderful children.
That experience is what brought me into this field and it is what keeps me here. Because I know that what you are living with is not weakness. It is the aftermath of something that should never have happened to you.
I have now spent over 15 years as a certified counsellor and social worker, specialising in the long-term effects of sexual abuse.
I was born and raised in Aruba and Curaçao, lived in Argentina and the Netherlands, and I work in English, Dutch, Spanish and Papiamento because I believe healing should never be limited by language.
Experience
15 years
Supporting clients with the long-term effects of sexual abuse
Registered with
ABvC · RBCZ
Sessions may qualify for Dutch supplementary insurance reimbursement
Languages
4
English · Dutch · Spanish · Papiamento
How I work
This isn't about you retelling me the story. It's about changing what the story left behind.
The story already happened. What we work with is what it taught your nervous system and how those teachings are still running your life today.
We go to the root
Most approaches work on the surface of the thoughts, the behaviour, the symptoms. I work at the level where the patterns were formed. That's where lasting change happens.
We work with the nervous system
Sexual trauma lives in the body, not just the mind. The shift happens when the nervous system receives a new message, not just when the mind understands one.
You are not a case to fix
I don't see the clients I work with as broken. I see them as people whose minds have learned to work very hard to keep them safe and who are ready to put that weight down.
Who I work with
You know something happened
You are ready to understand and heal what it left behind.
Often, the clients I work with are not in direct crisis. They are self-aware, high-functioning, and often well into their personal development journey. They have done the work. And they are still stuck in the same patterns because the work hasn't yet touched the root. of their trauma.
You might be ready for this work if
You've experienced sexual abuse and you can feel it shaping your life even if you can't always explain how
You're tired of managing the symptoms and ready to work at the root of where they come from
You are ready to be honest with yourself, even about the things that have been hardest to look at
You want to work with someone who understands this territory, not just professionally, but personally
You are ready to stop surviving and start living fully, not just on the surface
Work with Mily
If something on this page felt like it was written for you it probably was.
The first step is a conversation. No pressure, no commitment just an honest opportunity for us to get to know each other and find out whether this is the right fit.
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Experience
15 years
Supporting clients with the long-term effects of sexual abuse
Registered with
ABvC · RBCZ
Sessions may qualify for Dutch supplementary insurance reimbursement
Languages
4
Sessions available in:
English · Dutch · Spanish · Papiamento
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Some Amazing Transformations From My Past Clients
"From sexual abuse, panic attacks and trauma to flourishing in life as a survivor."
Mily helped me find the root of where my stress and PTSD begins, so I could address it in the gentlest way possible. She reminded me that what happened was not something I caused or asked for. She helped me realise that I have value and a purpose in this world.
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"Working with Mily through the programme has been an enormous and healthy help in my life. She helped me understand my emotions and learn to deal with them. Her guidance helped me find the root of where the stress, anxiety and PTSD begins, so I could address it in the gentlest way possible. She reminded me that what happened to me was not something I caused or asked for. She helped me realise that, at the end of the day, I have value and a purpose in this world. Don't be afraid to talk about what happened to you — give yourself an honest chance to open up and seek help. Asking for help doesn't mean you're weak. It simply means you need some guidance to one day become the best version of yourself. Thank you, Mily, for your guidance — because of you I am today the best version of myself."
Veronicka Camara
Administrative Worker
"From shame about who I am to embracing my strength."Â
Mily helped me accept my journey and reminded me again and again how to face my challenges. With understanding and patience she helped me embrace who I truly am. I now live my life much more fully as the strong person I am. I am no longer ashamed of who I am.
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"What really made the difference for me was working with a therapist who truly understood my struggles. Mily helped me accept my journey. She reminded me again and again how to face my challenges. With understanding and patience she helped me embrace who I am. I now live my life much more fully as the strong person I am. I am no longer ashamed of who I am."
Giselle Roosenhof
Business Owner
"From self-doubt to self-worth: learning to set boundaries and embrace my true value."
Mily's support changed my life both emotionally and spiritually. I learned to love myself, value myself, say no, and accept nothing less than I deserve. Her support has had positive and valuable results in every single area of my life.
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"Mily's support has been a unique experience that has changed my life both emotionally and spiritually. I have learned to love myself, to value myself, to say no and to accept nothing less than I deserve. I have learned to set boundaries in my relationships — whether with a partner, friends, colleagues or family. The truth is, the support Michemine has given me has had positive and valuable results in every area of my life. I am incredibly grateful for the guidance Mily has given me."
Reyna Santos
Hairdresser
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You lie awake at night running through conversations, wondering what you should have said differently
You know something happened and you can feel it still shaping your life, even if you can't always explain how
You second-guess yourself constantly, your instincts, your reactions, whether what you feel is even real
You feel on edge in relationships watching for shifts, bracing for something you can't quite name
You're exhausted by your own mind and ready to finally understand why it works the way it does
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